Hi there !
Welcome to my blog
My name is Karen
I am a young writer/Poet with only one thing in mind, to better my relationship with myself.
I am currently based in China, studying medicine in my fourth year.
Before I get into the details of my blog, here’s a little back story ..
I was born and raised in an African country called Zambia by my loving mother through it all. Being raised by a single parent had its highs and lows but overall I believe I have been blessed abundantly with all the love and care anyone could ever desire
As I grew up I learnt a lot from my environments both consciously and unconsciously and while some lessons have been helpful and beneficial, some turned out hindering and destructive.
When I realized this, it dawned upon me that I had to learn to appreciate the good qualities of my upbringing and work on the shortcomings and harmful traits from my childhood and my past.
I decided to take it upon myself a year ago to improve myself in all aspects and so far I have realized it is not as simple as I had hoped it would be. I have discovered that I have some great qualities and also some very toxic ones. As I identify them, I feel like I am a step towards improving and rectifying myself in places that I fall short and being aware of my strengths helps me continue to grow and not lose those great qualities over time
Now as I have been going through this, it dawned upon me how difficult it was for me to start let alone even stay on this journey of self improvement. I didn’t know how or where to start but regardless I started and chose to stick with it even when I had no idea what I was doing. So many times I just felt like I should go about living my life hoping everything works out in my favor and fix itself but this is such a horrible mentality and really just an excuse to avoid getting the hard work done. Self awareness and self reflection are not only uncomfortable but also difficult to understand sometimes. They actually need active work and effort. A sit down session to fully decode and decipher your own emotions, actions and reactions
I went through situations in life not having any idea how to get through them or identify how Best I could handle them. So many different situations were handled carelessly and made me wreckless and lost in so many ways. I hurt people and ruined relationships that may or may not have been lost if only I knew how to handle these situations differently. I harmed myself and resorted to alternatives all to avoid myself and this only made me feel much worse.
I spent so much time paying attention to external factors of life like trying to please people, what people thought of me liked about me what the world thinks, what fits the majority but I realized that was far from what I wanted for myself. I never took the time to think of what I liked about myself what I wanted to do, how I was doing physically mentally and emotionally.
Then it hit me, there’s so many other people out there struggling with the same thing. They are trying to find themselves. And the best part about finding yourself is, you are constantly finding yourself. You can find yourself a million times and that’s alright. We are evolving beings and these experiences help us grow and get better. You can’t find yourself once and it’s set in stone. Every chapter in your life requires a new and better you, a different version of yourself.
As I figure out my 20s I am hoping others too can be motivated to better themselves and get in touch with their greater self by being mindful, aware and conscious of their actions, strengths, weaknesses and personal growth.
I believe anyone can learn a little from my journey and be motivated to actually work on themselves.
And that’s why I created this blog. To keep track of my own journey and meet others on their own journeys too. Everyone can benefit from some self reflection at least once a day or week.
So while you are here, I hope you can find something to help yourself start or progress through your self improvement
This is in no way a professional mental health blog and i am not a mental health professional. Everything i write is based on personal research and personal experience. If you are going through extreme anxiety, inability to cope with life, depression or severe emotional disorders, please consult a professional.
I look forward to meeting like minded people and new friends as I too walk through the path of self improvement
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May we all aspire to be the best versions of ourselves
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